Why Are You Always Tired

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Life is tough.

Welcome to the tiring loop of life.

I wake up, and I am tired.

I won’t do anything.

I don’t want to, but I will go to my job.

Or to the school.

I will come back.

I will watch some television because I am tired.

I will eat a little bit in between because I have no energy to make anything more.

I will go to sleep tired.

And I wake up tired.

Let’s remake the whole thing, doing a little for yourself.

I wake up and in the opposite of grabbing my phone, I go take care of myself.

I wash my face, listen to good music, eat breakfast without my phone, and then get ready to work.

In my work, I will try to do something new.

Spark a conversation, smile more often (I don’t want to but I will try), go grab a tasty coffee before or whatever.

I will try to compliment someone. Boost my confidence by doing something I’ve never done before.

Then I am coming back.

My day already looked different. I make afternoon tea and go write for 30 minutes.

After I make something a little bit more delicious by putting in 5 more minutes.

Then I go read a book. Only 5 minutes.

Go on a walk. I’ve never done it before, but let’s go. I will listen to a new podcast in the meantime.

Then I have an hour or two of free time. What can I do? Work on my business, get a better night’s sleep, or both?

If you are doing something else you will get different results.

It’s as simple as that.

Being miserable is a choice

Don’t get me wrong.

Everyone here has a different back story.

No matter what, you can and should implement these small steps to make your life better if you feel that something is off.

If you don’t, you will stay in the place you stayed for a long time.

It starts from a solid decision you need to make, to have the things done.

Most of the people are tired.

Consumed by their own lives and having nothing else to do.

But some of them are tired not only for a reason but live so intensely that this is a result of their doings and they don’t even want to change it.

If you don’t want to change it it’s okay.

I can imagine a person who loves doing her own business and working 12 hours a day, then going for a walk, scheduling the next traveling trip, and meeting with people all day long. It even sounds perfect. But it’s tiring as well. Y

We are judging people because they are not going through the same struggles that we do.

But you chose your struggle, and everyone chose theirs.

It’s all about if you are willing to pay the price of your doings.

Every decision comes with the pain.

Of regret, it could make a better decision or fear of what is going to be next.

I want to you know that you are not alone in whatever you are going through.

Sometimes you start focusing so much on others living their best lives, but they can feel the same way miserable as you do at some points.

It’s all about the approach you have to making progress in life.

If you don’t want to make any, you will suffer, but in the future.

Regretting that you didn’t start earlier, weren’t bold enough, didn’t take the risk, didn’t approach the person e.g.

The suffering and pain will always catch up, that’s why it’s always better to do things right away and get over with them, but sometimes we are just too damn tired.

And these are the moments that will define you and make you different from others.

Human progress is neither automatic nor inevitable... Every step toward the goal of justice requires sacrifice, suffering, and struggle; the tireless exertions and passionate concern of dedicated individuals. - Martin Luther King, Jr.

By being dedicated in your life and finding passion in what you do, you are going to be willing to suffer, because suffering is inevitable toward any goal you pursue.

Change your mindset, start changing your life bit by bit and you will give a different meaning to the suffering you feel from the progress you need to make to evolve.

Make the decision now.

It’s all about these moments when you are tired.

If you push yourself out there or decide to give up.

They will make you or break you.

5-second method

Have you ever heard of this rule?

If it’s going to take you 2 minutes to finish the task, do it now.

This is a great way to start with the flow and get more and more stacked up in the done list.

But my favorite method to make progress in life is this one.

The 5-second method.

Whenever you find yourself in a position of needing to do something.

But not wanting it enough and being scared.

Like speaking openly at the meeting.

You have 5 seconds to raise your hand. Or you won’t do it at all because the fear will devour you.

Want to say hello to someone?

Do it now, don’t wait.

Want to start new projects, at least write notes quickly.

Want to post that new reel on Instagram, go and do it now.

Never wait long for things that need to be done immediately.

This is the best way to build your trust.

If you don’t trust yourself you never will have the confidence to lead the best life.

When I was starting my first year of high school, I had this idea in my head that I wanted to start a new chapter.

To my new school went some of my friends from middle school, but I didn’t want to have this privilege of having them around and going through all the years; however, I needed to put myself out there without anyone by my side to try something new.

After the first semester, I had the idea to change schools. Ramp up the level a little bit to the first one in the rankings in my province.

The same day I put myself on a bus to the school I had in my mind before.

I didn’t know much about what to do, so I was thinking on the spot.

How should I knock on the office’s doors, what to ask, what to say e.g.

I took action quicker than I thought I was ready to do so.

I think it was even the same day I finished school earlier and brought all the important documents with me and went to that school once again.

I spoke with the headmistress and exchanged smiles about why I had chosen the school before with my scores. This was the time I realized why. I wanted to feel the comfort of having my friends around. There I didn’t know too many people.

I said I felt bored and wanted to change something.

The same thing with the gym.

The first time was the hardest. To go out there, speak with the person behind the desk, and ask for a membership. You know. These things for 16-year-olds are hard if you haven’t done it before. At least it wasn’t easy for me.

I did it anyway.

Then exchanging conversations with people out there. I know that I will see them not once but if even I need to get out of my comfort zone. 5 seconds. Let’s go.

I think about the 5 seconds rule as “little to no time to think”, before I start thinking of how scared I am to do something I need to do it.

And that is the message behind what I want you to remember.

Whenever you feel scared that something won’t work out, and you didn’t even take the proper action.

Take the action. Don’t think.

Do it on the spot, improvise, and trust your gut.

It’s not that you shouldn’t plan anything in your life.

You should.

You have to balance the idea of planning and acting. If you only plan, but don’t do the actual acting stuff you won’t have any results.

You are your main priority

Reminder from the first paragraph.

If you want to achieve things you never had, you need to do something you never did.

Take care of yourself.

Activity, nutrition, hydration, relationships, hobbies, reading, writing.

By changing your input, you are starting to change your way of dealing with struggles.

That’s why whenever you feel too tired to eat something you need to push yourself out there to eat, because this is the only way that is going to save you.

Never trust the voice that is in your head to do it later. Do it now or never.

You put yourself in the infinite loop of not wanting to do anything because you don’t have enough energy.

You don’t have energy, because you don’t put out the energy.

This is the recipe for life.

You need to put out the energy if you want to recharge/have it.

Do something you would never think of yourself that you will do.

Then you will activate the part of your brain that will help you to achieve it.

Without doing you will only theorize and nothing good will come out.

This leads to the idea.

Whatever you do. Start small. Start just to start.

When you want to run marathons you need to get outside put your shoes on and run 100 yards (around 100 meters).

Make it simpler.

Go outside and put your shoes on.

Better. Have your shoes and just tie the shoelaces.

Easier. Stand up and stand in front of the doors with your shoes in your hands.

I guarantee that if you have your mindset to it and you are capable, you will be able to do the thing you set for yourself.

But if you don’t even start you won’t have energy.

Ergo even though you make everything so easy that starting is a guarantee you need to remember to take care of yourself because the lack of energy is due to the many surfaces you are working on.

Physical health, and mental health two are built by building relationships, doing what you love, not having distractions, taking care of what you eat, and the whole intake and outtake: social media, books, creative writing, and many more.

Progress requires you to evolve

It’s time to say goodbye to your old self.

To move forward in life, you must be willing to shed the old self and embrace the new.

Change is the catalyst for growth.

Evolution is the vehicle that propels you toward your goals.

It demands effort, persistence, and willingness to step outside and do the work.

You can’t expect to achieve different results by clinging to an expired identity.

By stepping on the new path you will encounter a lot of suffering.

However only this one that you signed up yourself for.

Not always everything will be in your control and you will have to embrace it.

Deal the best cards you have at the moment.

Anyway, you will create a clearer path of doing what will benefit yourself that you are creating. The new identity needs some help to emerge. It is shaped by your every action.

My top 5 ways to get out of excessive tiredness:

1. Setting myself a night and morning schedule.

I have when I wake up and I don’t what to do.

Then I just go to sleep for a little bit longer.

Yes. I am still working on this thing.

I love to have that time that I just don’t exceed e.g. 8 am and with this time I know that no matter what, or how free the day is I don’t exceed that hour with sleeping.

The game-changer for my night routine was to stop using my phone for social media after 8 p.m. I send out all the messages (or at least on most days) until 8 p.m. and then finish.

I close the social media.

Then I do some creative writing, this is the way I am working right now.

I am writing posts, newsletters, and podcast episodes and working on some projects during that time before bed.

I try to finish everything by 10 p.m., and before that, I wrap everything up by writing ToDos for tomorrow.

I open the window in my room to make the bedroom colder, I go take care of myself, then when I am back I just put my sleeping mask on and go to sleep.

Using the watch I wake up, so no setting a solid alarm.

I have only one on my phone for the time I need to be 100% awake, but anyway, I set an alarm for a time like 5:30 - 6:00 so I am awakened at the best time possible depending on my sleep.

At least I want to trust it.

Then morning routine.

Music on, self-care, a cup of hot water and I go outside

I give myself up to 20 minutes doing some light activity to get myself working.

Then creative writing for an hour and something for breakfast.

And that’s it. If you don’t write yourself a schedule that will work for you, getting the constant tiredness out of your life is going to be harder.

2. Doing an activity at least once a day.

Working out can be tiring but on the other end, you have more energy after.

When you move your body you create momentum for everything to happen.

You not only get stronger but also more confident in your power of self-reliance.

So go for that run, that you don’t want to.

Go take a walk after a whole day of work/school.

This is a golden rule for me.

Anytime I don’t feel okay or I have this “brain fog” I go outside or just move my body.

You will only thank yourself.

3. Daily self-care

I don’t know why some of us still don’t do it.

Take care of your face, skin, fingernails, feet, hair, and teeth.

The parts of yourself that can make you feel like a shy person and take your confidence from you.

If you don’t base your total confidence in the way you look, it’s amazing.

But it doesn’t mean that not taking care of yourself doesn’t impact the way you lead your life.

When I started taking care of the health of my body and the way it looks I got my energy boosted up.

It doesn’t take long.

Cleansing my face in the morning, putting the moisturizer and SPF.

Doing it at the end of the day.

Brushing my teeth at least 2 times a day or even 6. I have an obsession with it.

Getting your nails done.

Going to the barber once a month or just caring more about your hair.

It goes to all the men reading it.

Sort yourself out.

Not only you will boost the confidence you already should have in you.

But as well the energy knowing that except working you are taking care of yourself.

It is a big deal.

4. Hydrate yourself.

Drink 4,5,6 liters of water.

If you find yourself to be tired, there is a high chance that you are dehydrated.

It is so simple but so important.

Living at the summer camp for 3 months taught me to take a close hold of my water bottle.

For me, there is a golden rule with bidons.

One when you go outside that can hold around 1l or 32oz - you can refill it anywhere if you find a need, but seriously this is a lot.

But at home, I am using a smaller one, two times smaller so every time I finish it I have an incentive to move my 3 letters and refill it when I spend a whole day in front of a screen.

The same thing comes to school or job.

Drink as much as you remember and beyond.

It’s going to help your cognitive power and you will feel better.

5. Have a space to let it all out

Talk with your friend.

Go speak about it on social media.

Go write.

Share the thing that is inside of you.

Let it air out.

It’s going to save so much hatred that you hold toward yourself and you don’t have to. When you put things onto paper or speak about them openly they start to lose the power they have.

That is how you can help yourself and at the same time help someone else, because you two realize that you are not alone in this.

We all are here together on this rolling piece through the cosmos.

And that’s it. So simple.

Thank you for sticking to the end.

I hope you liked it and didn’t get discouraged by the topic.

It’s so important to speak about it without hesitation.

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